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Laying fertile ground for a bountiful life Your Life Is a Garden series The concept of self-care has been around for awhile now (a pillar of the millenial psyche) and there’s been plenty of discourse about what actually constitutes “self-care,” how it functions in our capitalist society that tries to package and sell it (keep swiping your card to keep feeling good), who “self-care” is actually available to, and whether the whole concept itself causes an erasure of the arguabl

Visualizing your garden Your Life Is a Garden series Gardening invites you into a state of intention, focus, consistency, and care. Before you start throwing dirt on the ground or sprinkling seed around, first take time to dream - to envision your garden and all the elements of it - the fruits, veggies, flowers, trees. Even the little gnome statue that you love, or shaded bench perfect for drinking a cold lemonade on. Here you have full permission to dream big - don’t hold ba

How to improve your life through trying times This series is written to guide myself, and you, the reader, through the challenges of our lives while staying open, engaged, adaptable, and full of wonder. It’s a therapeutic approach, woven with my own creative musings, to figuring out how to improve our lives in the landscape of today’s world. I hope you will join me as I venture into the images, senses, and pathways that might offer us nuggets of wisdom that can support us thr

Believing in yourself rather than shrinking yourself “How do I know if I’m right?” “What if I’m the one that’s wrong?” “What if I do something to mess it all up?” I hear these comments all the time in sessions, with clients of all different backgrounds, identities, personality types, and mental health challenges. I, too, relate to these inner narratives of self-doubt and insecurity, because they are a part of our shared human experience. Which is to say that self-doubting tho

Breaking up with the caretaker role so that you can have healthier relationships A recent theme in my sessions has been about adults who get stuck in a caretaker role. In most cases, these now adults had to take on “parent” roles to some extent during childhood. Many people who want kids of their own are also afraid of repeating harmful cycles that they grew up with. To break the cycle, you can start by recognizing the ways that the caretaking role hasn’t been serving you, an

Regulating Big Emotions During Conflict You and your partner are on your way home from a party. Your partner seems irritated and you ask them, what’s up? Didn’t they enjoy the party? Their answer is short - yeah, it was nice. You are starting to feel uneasy - are they mad? They say they’re not mad really, but they just feel like you were judging them around your friends. Now you’re confused, but your blood is also boiling - are they seriously acting this way, making you feel

How to get through the highs and lows while trying to conceive The fertility journey is a winding road full of “what if’s”, potential let-downs, and hopes and expectations. Add into the mix financial investments, appointments, tough conversations, body changes, medical and legal considerations, and you’re in a pressure cooker of overwhelm. Yet, this time is also a testament to your love and commitment to your future family - a declaration of your intention to create and nurtu

Change is hard, and it’s constant. We are often working so hard to resist change or control its outcomes, that we end up getting tossed around through some of life’s inevitable twists and turns. So how can you find balance, evolve and grow with life, without losing yourself or all the things and people you love? Life’s big changes I’m Hannah, a queer perinatal mental health therapist. Perinatal is a fancy word to describe all things fertility related, including trying to conc